health & wellness
Anonymous asked:
expatesque answered:
Oh man. Well first off, I do not always feel confident and cool, I don’t think anyone does. There’s definitely things about myself and my body that I wish I could change. But when I get twisted up, there’s a few things that help me keep it in perspective:
1. Everybody is a set of strengths and weaknesses. Yup, I have a shit metabolism but you should see my memory. Yeah, I’ll never be able to sing but man can I put together an outfit. So every time I get down about something, I remember that in the grand scheme of humanity, I have some pretty amazing skills. And when I really think about it, I wouldn’t trade my greatest strengths for my greatest weaknesses. Which is related to…
2. Only worry about what’s (a) in your control and (b) what you choose to prioritize. I spent ages in high school thinking that if I just worked out more or ate less then I’d have that lovely, willowy thin type of body that looks amazing and effortless in clothes. But I spent a summer playing/teaching tennis pretty much full time and eating really damn well and guess what, my thighs didn’t magically go away. I have a body that’s built much more like a Serena than a Venus, and I’ve learned that anything outside of unhealthy extreme isn’t going to change that. So, I let it go. Do I sometimes look at an outfit and think “god I would love to look good in that”? Yup. But I’ve learned to either ignore trends that are definitely never going to work on me or find ways of re-working them (straight slip dresses? absolutely not. But add a waistline in here or some twisting there and we’re talking). If something is able to be improved and really matters to you, work on it. Otherwise, you have to give yourself a break.
3. Stop caring about people that aren’t worth your time. I know, this is horrible advice that begs the question “But HOW?” For me, I regularly prune people out of my life. If your opinion about me doesn’t, or shouldn’t, matter to me, then you don’t either. Poof, begone. I have a small and tight group of people I care about, and their opinions do matter to me. If my boyfriend says I need to tone it down, that’s probably a good call. If my mom says I shouldn’t judge someone so quickly, she’s probably right. So think about who in your life is important - who complements your weaknesses, who always knows just what to say, who isn’t afraid to say what you don’t want to hear - and chop off the excess. I promise you’ll feel lighter not carrying around the weight of unnecessary people’s expectations or judgements.
4. And most importantly…have goals. If you’re focused and know what you want, it’s much easier to brush off people, ideas, thoughts, that can knock you down. Focus on what’s ahead and you’ll realize just how unnecessary a lot of the crap you’re dealing with is. Stupid relationship drama, bitchy ‘friends,’ nasty comments, it all rolls off like water on a duck when you have a vision you’re working towards. When high school used to get too much, I would close my eyes and try to picture what life would be like Cam, walking to lectures on cobblestone streets, punting on the river, candlelit dinners… Having a vision for the life you want outside of the bubble you’re in can make all the difference.
That’s pretty much what I’ve got. I hope some of that is helpful. The long and short is: make sure you’re on the track to be the person you want to be, flaws in areas that don’t matter balanced out with strengths that do. Good luck.
If you feel like your body doesn’t add up to the motivation anymore, give yourself that well-deserved rest. Make yourself a hot chocolate or a cup of tea, go to bed for at least for a few hours, and watch a movie. Or even take a long, long nap if you can. Do what it takes to build yourself back up. You deserve it. And if you really want to study, then pick up one of your text books and read them from the depth of your bed. Don’t take notes, don’t overthink it. Just read through it like you are reading an actual novel or article. Still : if you are really tired, the best thing to do is to lie down and close your eyes.
Your health is more important than anything. I understand that a lot of us have exams and deadlines coming up, but at least try to give yourself an eight-to-ten-hours night. It’s so important that you take care of yourself, especially in those times of pressure.
- apply Vaseline to your eyes, lashes, brows, and lips before bed
- never brush curly hair while it’s dry
- on that note, applying products/oil to curly hair while dry is useless
- use a t shirt to dry hair to avoid frizz
- sleep without pants. trust me.
- avoid watery body lotions like Vaseline’s lotion. only dries you out
- avoid crystalline, jagged scrubs (sugar, coffee. St. Ives, etc.). Use round/gentle ones like oatmeal
- avoid coconut oil on face. if you apply it to your hair wash your face afterwards
- don’t put lemon on your face. it might seem like it’s helping but it weakens its protective layer in the long run. if you do use it, dilute it and avoid sun for a while.
- no toothpaste on pimples either it’s a myth
- why do u have a bra on at home. take that shit off and live a little.
- apply deodorant before getting dressed so it doesn’t rub off on your clothes defeating the purpose
- reapply sunscreen every 3-4 hours
- don’t text the fuckboy he don’t care about you
- wake up 30 minutes earlier to have a more relaxed morning and avoid rushing
- wash panties by themselves so you don’t get the gross dirt and germs from your other clothes mixed in. dry them in the sun to kill bacteria if possible.
- hand wash all hijabs they’ll last longer
- don’t use rose water with added fragrance. always check label
- eat at least one fruit or vegetable a day
- leave menial tasks for the end of the day. don’t drain yourself before getting to the important stuff
- before saying something mean or a nasty joke, take 5 seconds to think about it.
- apologizing first doesn’t make you weak
- being vulnerable doesn’t make you weak
- exfoliate after using foundation or powder
- clean phone screen with rubbing alcohol/sanitizer
might add more later or y'all can reblog with your own tips
lyfesizedoll asked:
ninthwardjawn answered:
1. drink 3 liters of water everyday so ur skin can glow and ur body can flush out toxins easier.
2. don’t let any niggas stress u out.
3. plan plan plan. write lists of goals u want to accomplish by the end of the summer and check them off as u go. create visuals that will help u achieve those goals.
4. exfoliate exfoliate exfoliate.
5. get comfortable spending time with urself so u don’t need anyone else.
6. splurge on that lil swimsuit u been eyeing. hit the beach and STUNT bitch STUNT.
7. suck on lollipops around niggas. roll ur eyes. flirt. be cute. be yaself.
8. exercise! if u can! exercise causes the release of endorphins and endorphins makes a hoe happy.
9. bubble baths!!!! use them as a time to reflect on positive lil things.
10. this is corny but tell urself ‘I’m a bad bitch and i love myself. God went awf when he created me’ everyday in the mirror.
11. create a bed time routine so u can be well rested. getting enough sleep is important. ur body will love u for it.
12. do cute hoe spontaneous shit but be safe about it.
lyfesizedoll asked:
ninthwardjawn answered:
1. drink 3 liters of water everyday so ur skin can glow and ur body can flush out toxins easier.
2. don’t let any niggas stress u out.
3. plan plan plan. write lists of goals u want to accomplish by the end of the summer and check them off as u go. create visuals that will help u achieve those goals.
4. exfoliate exfoliate exfoliate.
5. get comfortable spending time with urself so u don’t need anyone else.
6. splurge on that lil swimsuit u been eyeing. hit the beach and STUNT bitch STUNT.
7. suck on lollipops around niggas. roll ur eyes. flirt. be cute. be yaself.
8. exercise! if u can! exercise causes the release of endorphins and endorphins makes a hoe happy.
9. bubble baths!!!! use them as a time to reflect on positive lil things.
10. this is corny but tell urself ‘I’m a bad bitch and i love myself. God went awf when he created me’ everyday in the mirror.
11. create a bed time routine so u can be well rested. getting enough sleep is important. ur body will love u for it.
12. do cute hoe spontaneous shit but be safe about it.
if you realize you’ve been studying for hours: grab a snack to refuel your body and watch a sitcom to refuel your brain. then back to the books.
if you’re feeling stressed out: take some deep breaths, text your friends, maybe stare at a wall for a few minutes. gather yourself.
if you can’t seem to focus: get moving and get outside. take out the garbage, check your mail box, maybe walk your dog. just get moving and get fresh air. it’ll help bring you back.
if there’s something else going on in your life and you can’t get it off your mind: write down what’s going through your head, sort of like a diary entry. it’ll help you work things out.
if you’re just mentally and physically exhausted: set a timer for 25-30 minutes and take a nap. any longer and you’ll hit REM and you’ll wake up feeling just as tired. once you wake up, get some caffeine in you.
if the material is boring as hell: find another way to study. see if there’s a crash course video online about it or draw out what you’re trying to learn in diagrams and pictures to make it fun.
if people around you won’t shut up: listen to some music. soundtrack and classical music is always good because they won’t absorb you as much as music with lyrics. white noise (like ocean waves, rain sounds, etc.) also works.
if you only half understand a concept: call/message a friend who’s not in the class and try to teach the material to them. this will help you mentally work through the material and will help you remember it as well.
Anonymous asked:
alysaslifestyle answered:
EAT HEALTHY AND ENOUGH !!!! EXERCISE REGULARLY
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, DO IT IN A HEALTHY WAY AND DO NOT RUSH FOR RESULTS… LET YOUR BODY TAKE ITS TIME❤️❤️
Concept: I’m that girl who goes for runs everyday, stays on top of her work, gets a head in her work, has a healthy diet, has clear skin, doesn’t stress, and lives life positively.
I’m looking forward to the day where I can be that cliche girl that studies and gets shit done in a coffee shop or library, with my head always in a book and daydreams filling my head. Just imagine. A cup of coffee to the left, books stacked high beside you, knowing you’ve accomplished so many things, and that feeling that you’re finally getting somewhere. And you’re okay for once in your life. You’re okay.
Update: When I made this post about two years ago, I was in a terrible spot in life. Things were bad, things were rough, and I didn’t know if I would make it to graduation. And now, two years later, I’m in my freshman year of college. And things are great, and things are smooth, and I know I’m going to make it far in life.
I’m finally the girl in this post. I’m the happiest I’ve been, studying my little heart out, knowing that I’m trying my best and sometimes that’s the best and only thing I can do. Life can get better, even if you don’t believe it will. I’ve become who I want to be. And I know you can too.
You’re okay, beautiful. You’re okay.
